So you found your special someone. You found the love of your life. You found your ride or die. That is so special, and I’m so excited for you… coming from personal experience… this is not an easy task. Of course, you want your proposal to be perfect, and to be the most beautiful beginning to a long life of togetherness and love. So I came up with some Do’s and Don’ts you NEED to keep in mind when looking for that PERFECT ring for your PERFECT partner in crime.
DO – PICK YOUR FAVORITE DIAMOND SHAPE FIRST
There are literally a GAZILLION options for engagement rings and you will drown in the choices like you do every night trying to decide what Netflix show to watch… if you don’t have a starting point. So here’s your starting point… just pick a diamond shape you love and go from there. There are many things that you can still customize around a shape, but at least picking the shape will limit you down to one category.
DO – TRY ON MANY DIFFERENT SHAPES
If you decide to bring your special someone to go ring shopping with you, let them try on many different shapes. Don’t worry about being a pest to the sales person, it is their job to make you happy. IN FACT, they want you to try on many different rings… not only because they want you to be satisfied in the end, but they want to stay chatting with you longer so that they can really get to know who you are and how they can help you. Once you land on your favorite shape you can do the rest of the picking.
DON’T – ASSUME YOU CAN TAKE PICTURES
Jewelry making is an art, and many ring designs are proprietary designs… sometimes special to just that store and just that designer. If the sales person tells you that you cannot take pictures do not try to sneak one anyway. They are worried about their work being copied and other stores making mock copies of their original creation. Respect the artistry, and ask first before taking pictures.
DO – TRY ON DIAMONDS YOU CAN AFFORD
Start the conversation right away by making your budget clear. This will allow the sales person to show you the diamonds that are within your price range and nothing else. Sometimes, if you don’t make your budget clear, you may wind up falling in love with a diamond and then losing on other part of the ring just to have that one diamond you can’t stop thinking about. Only see what you can have, it will make heartbreak less likely.
DON’T – BRING YOUR WHOLE CREW ON THE FINAL DAY
The more peanuts in the peanut gallery the less likely you are to feel confident about what you are buying. They don’t have to wear this ring for the rest of their life, you do… or your partner. Bring only those closest to you and limit the amount of influence they have over your buying decision. This is your ring, your wedding, and your forever.
DO – PICK YOUR FAVORITE DIAMOND NOT THE BEST RATED
Don’t let the color clarity or grading report sway you away from a ring that you love. Beauty is in imperfection and they can’t grade beauty… only you can. Pick the ring that you think your partner will love, or let them pick the one they love without letting technically nonsense get in the way.
These are just a few suggestions that are good to keep in mind. Of course, there are many other things to consider, but the goal here is to start limiting the “no’s” so that you can get to the “yes”. Looking around online is a good way to start this process. A brand worth checking out is lark & berry and take a look at some of the options they have just to start deciding what is your yes… before you say your I DO’s.
Best of luck on your upcoming forever!